tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8665251668379899072.post8328541663626637717..comments2023-05-18T08:42:32.587-07:00Comments on Time Capsule : Go away "Should Be Able Tos"Rubyhearthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04413669522065683633noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8665251668379899072.post-34638577805340971232013-01-30T20:18:45.464-08:002013-01-30T20:18:45.464-08:00wow,...did i write this or did you?? ;) i can so r...wow,...did i write this or did you?? ;) i can so relate hon. same here~!! well, i can tell you dear that with 3 little ones at home, it is 3:1, you taking care of 3 of them and 5 in your family. but,...the older they get,the more responsibility you can train them to take on. :) then, instead of you caring for 3 kids, you will have 3 little helpers to help~!! ever since my kids were little we have played the "who can pick up the most dirty clothes off the floor/who can fill a laundry basket the fastest?" game or instead of playing matching board games,...play who can match the most socks from the clean laundry basket game :) turning housework into fun games kills two birds,..time with kids, teaching them good work ethics, and getting the work done. ok, that's 3 birds. :) but, all that said. i so know how you feel. i really love hearing your struggles with guilt and messy house, and list of things to accomplish that goes up to the stratusphere. nothing gives me greater pleasure than to see another sahm's messy house~!! it makes me feel more normal. :) i have a spinal injury which limits my ability to bend down and pick things up off the floor, i can sweep, but i cant bend down and put the dirt into the dustpan. and when you have kids, you know how many things hit the floor. so, i have to enlist the help of the kids daily to pick the 20 million things that land on the floor in a day. and no matter how often we pick up,...5 mins later, you cant see the floor again. its incredibly frustrating to me, and causes me stress, palpitations, and breathlessness~! but then, i remember my friend tina, who has a 5 year old boy not much younger than my liam, who was born with trisomy 18, a severe birth defect. he has spent every week in hospital until he was diagnosed with a massive brain tumor that was removed last fall. she reminds me to 'not sweat the small stuff'. that little statement helps me to exhale slowly and put things into perspective. :) it IS REALLY HARD TO FIND A BALANCE when you wear many important hats. :) you have no reason to feel guilty. you are an incredibly loving mother. you spend time in wholesome endevors with your children like gardening,..growing healthy beautiful veggies (jealous~!), baking bread (jealous!), knitting (jealous~!), preserving food you have grown yourself (jealous~!), playing with your beautiful baby (jealous~!), and what~!?? you even make soap..(jealous~!) ha ha. you have a lot to be proud of and yes, that housework is always gonna be there hounding us, it screams at us sometimes,...so we chip away at it like trying to widdle down an iceberg with an icepick. we do the best we can and hope no one stops by :) is getting a little help with housecleaning a possibility? even hiring a housecleaner to come by 3 times a week for a couple of hours might feel like a massive help...someone to wash the floors and clean the bathroom or something?? we are in the same boat as is most moms who stay home with kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8665251668379899072.post-35380578856836534852011-11-16T11:09:07.272-08:002011-11-16T11:09:07.272-08:00I agree! This is not time to be meticulous! or t...I agree! This is not time to be meticulous! or to feel bad about my limitations.. too much to enjoy and appreciate..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18191546922760384745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8665251668379899072.post-35750026954211011432011-11-15T16:10:42.030-08:002011-11-15T16:10:42.030-08:00I completely agree! Getting caught in the "s...I completely agree! Getting caught in the "shoulds" is a particularly sneaky form of self-loathing.<br /><br />Be happy! The children will grow fast, fast fast and there will be loads of time for a clean house. FLYLady helps too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com